How Parental Kidnapping Works (for the Abuser) — Writing For My Life, Nov. 2012

Date: Feb 5, 2013 9:27 PM
Subject: WRITING FOR MY LIFE:  Our Story (parts).Diary.Nov2012

Please see most attached Motion which is the most recent filing re: our Chancery Case in Central Mississippi, to remove the Guardian Ad Litem for my son and daughter.  The gal was appointed in August 2011  to investigate a sexual abuse charge my ex-husband filed against a youth minister in our hometown … a charge that turned out to be no-billed for lack of evidence some 15 months later, and, that never had any bearing on me as a mother, or as a fit parent to my children.  In addition, the gal was to investigate why my 9 year old daughter was hospitalized for insomnia, anxiety, and stress-related conditions in July of 2010, shortly after I retrieved her, with the knowledge and assistance from local authorities from her father’s home and hometown some 200 miles away from my and my children’s hometown on the Mississippi Gulf Coast.  I picked up my youngest child who was hiding on the side of the road by her father’s home at 3 a.m.  after my young daughter and her 12 year old brother were not returned from a 4 day vacation with their father. The gal did no investigation into any of these matters.

After the children had been taken by their father, against custody, the summer of 2010, they were denied unmonitored access to communicate with me but my 9 year old was able to sneak a call to me after 6 weeks of forced, illegal separation.  Being frightened and confused, this child was alarmed and afraid and asked me to come pick her up right away.  Her father told her she would never see or live with me, her mother, again.

This parental kidnapping on the part of her father had been a pattern of their father’s every year since our divorce was finalized in March 2006.  I battled it as best I could, with no punishment or sanctions against their father, in spite of the fact that I had custody of the children.  I did drive the 200 miles to pick up my daughter from her father’s home after notifying the local PD who offered as much assistance as they could.  My son was not waiting outside.  I was advised to either wait and take my son  when he did come outside, as was my right, or, get assistance through the courts.  The police were unable to bodily remove the children from the residence even though my ex-husband was in direct contempt because I did not have a writ of assistance set out in our custody agreement which would allow them to do.  This parental kidnapping, and legal abuse of consistent, frivolous custody, contempt actions had been a pattern of my ex-husband’s approximately twice every year since our divorce was finalized in March 2006.

 

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6 thoughts on “How Parental Kidnapping Works (for the Abuser) — Writing For My Life, Nov. 2012

  1. I am so sorry. Before my ex began his hateful campaign to cut my daughter out of my life & cut her out of the rest of her family’s life with inappropriate privileges such as dropping her off in town by herself at 14 despite eye witness reports of pot use, etc., & allowing strangers old enough for their license to bring her home before midnight, I assumed her acting out must have been caused by someone in the neighborhood or at school (she was so secretive) because her dad had always spoiled her — I did not know about the tactic of “grooming” then, unfortunately. When others provided me information as eye witnesses as to what was going on during his weekends — he was letting her be about town alone & unsupervised since 12 — as well as other info that pointed to neglect & abuse, the GAL, Darryl Wayne Moon (Ala.) did not do one thing to investigate the endangerment & neglect & corruption of a minor. Judge Jackson would not take time to look at any evidence. What’s worse, the DAs office had evidence of underage porn on his real estate school computer located in his personal private office, but somehow it just disappeared: the assistant DA at the time was the son-in-law of my ex’s business partner in a real estate sales company they recently sold to Realty South. Since the, my daughter has not shown signs of thriving or being emotionally healthy as evidenced by the insurance claims I get since I am the only one who has ever covered her health insurance. Alienators use sick means to bond with their kids (“trauma bonding”) & bribe away their soul to selfishness while instilling disapproval & disgust toward their target parent. Fortunately, Andrew Folkler, Heather Swicked Elaine Kent, Addie Dager & other youth who have been victimized by Parental Alienation are speaking out on youtube.

    1. Your suffering and worry over your daughter is also so much like my own … I am stunned, amazed I have come across 2 very similar Mother’s and daughter’s experiences, so much like my own. In your blog … cut my daughter out of my life & cut her out of the rest of her family’s life with inappropriate privileges such as dropping her off in town by herself at 14 despite eye witness reports of pot use, etc., & allowing strangers old enough for their license to bring her home before midnight, I assumed her acting out must have been caused by someone in the neighborhood or at school (she was so secretive)… When others provided me information as eye witnesses as to what was going on during his weekends — he was letting her be about town alone & unsupervised since 12 — as well as other info that pointed to neglect & abuse, the GAL … did not do one thing to investigate the endangerment & neglect & corruption of a minor. Judge … would not take time to look at any evidence… THESE are shocking details so much like I have experienced with my ex, it seriously took my voice for nearly a year I was so afraid for my children, so horrified these things could happen unchecked, unnoticed by every one around us, THEM. I am so sorry. I truly know how this feels, and continue the fight even to this day, so many years later. God Help Us All. I am truly so very sorry for all of us.

      1. Yes, helpless rage & confusion over how “professionals” who are charged with protecting your child could enable & assist in the abuser’s sick plans =( & then people judge you. You’re damned if you do & damned if you don’t. HG Beverly’s book, The Other Side of Charm: Your Memoir illustrates this nightmare very well. At the time, I thought I was the only one — how could there even be one case like this let alone more? I hate that others are going thru this nightmare & I feel an obligation to speak out after books like Kimber Adams’ memoir The Parentectomy helped validate & empower me. A light has to be shined on this evil.

  2. Reblogged this on Moms' Hearts Unsilenced and commented:
    Please follow this mom on Twitter (“Mississippi Mom”) & share her story & your own Parental Alienation story so others, including grown kids who have been indoctrinated to hate their own parent, will understand they are not alone. We all know how bad it feels to be alone & misunderstood in Parental Alienation, so please speak up by leaving comments about your situation.

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