By Keith Marsolek, CEO & Founder at Parental Alienation World Wide Support Group Public Page, CEO & Founder at Parents Against Alienation and CEO & Founder at Fathers Against Parental Alienation:
People often times get PA confused as the name might imply it is some regards or fashion something to do with adults and parents, when this could be as far from the truth as it gets. You see, PA is really not about adults or parents at all. Its really all about the children. The price tag that has been placed on their being. It is the systematic and deliberate psychological war that they are being used for. It is the intentional mental abuse they are made to endure for years, decades and sometimes lifelong.
We as adults whom are merely bystanders to this new cloacked type of abusive behaviour and who fall victim by our mere emotional ineptness to deal or handle it. We often loose sight of whom this injures the most whom are the children. I never felt as if I was being victimized by this phenomenon we now understand as PA. I guess I felt more confusion or disalutioned that this kind of behavior would come from a person that not only did I love for many years and have children and a family with but that they have done this and continue to do with those children that they feverishly claim to love as well. Seeing how they feel that in some way they hurt me as much as they feel hurt by the rejection of the relationship when in fact they do not hurt me at all.
So I have educated myself and now know and fully understand that PA really isnt about me or my possible emotional response to a misguided adult psychological and behavioral issue. It is soley directed at the children and in doing so I am sort to speak a bystander that only gets bits and pieces. The children end up taking the full brunt of the abuse and psychological warfare heaved upon their shoulders. This is whom we must concentrate our educational and awareness efforts directly to. People say we should not involve children in the affairs of adults. Maybe its time we rethink this stragedy when it come to the subject and matters regarding PA. After all, it is our children on the front lines of this war against them. Let us as adults give them the necessary psychological tools to fight a war they never asked to be in, in the first place.