Those who have experienced life, and losses, due to alienation, have long known recovery for a child, healing for the division sown between the alienated parent and child, is nearly impossible while the child(children) remain exposed to the behavior and conditions of the alienating parent/family. Please see excerpt from this reputable expert who has confirmed what we, as laymen, already knew. Though this confirmation of our worst experiences and knowledge does not help those of us who have many years’ experience, it may help those just entering beginning phases.
Dr. Craig Childress: “Based on my knowledge and experience with this type of family pathology, I will no longer accept for treatment a case of attachment-based “parental alienation” without first acquiring the child’s protective separation from the distorting parental influence of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent during the active phase of the child’s treatment and recovery. This will likely require the cooperation of the Court, so that the more fundamental question becomes how to obtain the cooperation of the Court. The answer is for no therapist anywhere to treat attachment-based “parental alienation” without first acquiring the child’s protective separation from the pathology of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent during the active phase of the child’s treatment and recovery. This then leads to the question of how to achieve this professional standard of no therapist anywhere treating attachment-based parental alienation without a protective separation. The answer is to achieve a professional definition of this group of children and families as a “special population” requiring specialized professional knowledge, training, and expertise to appropriately diagnose and treat, so that ALL therapists treating this “special population” will be experts in the nature of the pathology and its treatment. How is this achieved? By defining an attachment-based model of “parental alienation” from entirely within established psychological principles and constructs that then allows for the establishment of professional standards of practice” regarding the CONTENT of professional knowledge necessary to treat this “special population” of children and families. This is what I am attempting to do.
Until that time, however, there will be no solution to “parental alienation” available for a variety of reasons. The solution must be for ALL targeted parents or there can be no solution for any individual targeted parent. Trying to find a solution for any specific case, for your specific case, without first establishing the solution for all cases will not be effective.”
…. see http://drcraigchildressblog.com/2014/12/31/subjective-reality-of-the-narcissisticborderline-parent/